THE SECOND TIME AROUND

 So you decided to give it another shot with your ex? Your somewhat apprehensive, but the love is still there so you said what the heck, Ill try it again! So now what? First we have to evaluate why you broke up in the first place. If it was over infedelity/cheating then this short blog may not be enough, but if you both broke up because of communication issues, insecurity, or something else along those lines then read on....

 

*Communication is KEY in every relationship, and most of the time a lack in communication is the cause of most fights, and arguments. When you lack the ability to talk openly and freely with your partner it will cause a great deal of stress, and misunderstandings. Most people find it easier to go to a friend or family member about a problem with their mate, but why not go directly to the source? Have you ever heard the saying, "Don’t Ask My Neighbor”? If you feel unsure about what to say you need to build a stronger friendship with your partner. The person your with should not only be your lover, but also your best friend. This makes it easier for you to talk to them about situations that are bothering you. If you can’t talk to your partner about problems in your relationship then you have to ask yourself.... Why am I in a relationship with this person?

*If your partner has Insecurity issues it can make the relationship intolerable at times. You can’t go out with your friends or co-workers because your partner is constantly thinking that you’re creeping around on them, or looking for someone new. If your partner has low-self esteem because of weight gain, past history of a cheating partner, or some other reason you have to be understanding of this if you want to be with them. Only time, love, and patience can heal the wounds of insecurity. If your partner has insecurity issues because of a cheating partner from their past, you have to understand that in order for them to fully trust you they must first move on from their pain, and that can take years depending on the person, and situation. If your partner is still in the healing process your second time around, you have to understand and accept this going back into the relationship. Obviously you love them if you are willing to be with them again even though you are aware of this issue. So be ready to work on earning their trust, but beware this is not always an easy task. If your partner is insecure because of weight gain, or a physical change in their body or features, its important that you reassure them on a regular basis how beautiful/handsome you think they are, and assist in building their confidence by going to the gym with them or using other tools to assist in resurrecting their confidence. Do special things occasionally to show them how much you appreciate and love them. Whether it’s a special candle light dinner, hot oil massage, or stroll in the park always take time to show the luv you have for your mate.

Some people feel you should never go back only forwards, but I feel that giving someone a second chance (dependent on the situation) can be a good thing. For one....You already know most of their faults, and weaknesses. So you know what to expect out of them. Dealing with someone from your past can sometimes be comforting as well because, they know all the things you love, and all the things you hate right from the door. The most important thing to keep in mind however is the changes you need to make the second time around. Have a clear understanding of the problems you had in the past, and have a plan on how you can get through those issues so they don’t affect your chances in the future. XoXo Written by, MizzBlaze aka LuvOnBlast http://www.luvonblast.com/