You have admired a Music Artist or Ball Player from afar... You keep up with their latest actions, and you respect his/her talents. You feel some kind of affection towards this person all though you have never met them face to face. The thought of them makes you smile, and feel all giddy inside when you see them come across your TV screen... These feelings are similar to Love, but how can you be in Love with someone who doesn’t even know you exist?? Could this be the beginning of a ... Groupie Luv!

In reality there is nothing wrong with having admiration for someone. It’s easy to look up to a public figure and feel some sort of attraction to them. Whether it’s because of their talents and gifts or because of the way they claim power and attention. After all who wants someone who is just sitting around not making moves? The people that are the most appealing often times are the ones who are action takers, and leaders. You look up to them because they have stepped up to the plate, and done things that other people have only dreamed to do. So why wouldn’t you feel some kind of attraction for them?

The Term Groupie is defined as---- "An ardent fan of a celebrity, someone who follows a group/artist around on tours. An admirer of a celebrity who attends as many of his or her public appearances as possible."

So how does this admiration turn into a Sexual Attraction? You start off as a fan “A devotee or enthusiast", and then the next thing you know you are being referred to as a Groupie which is a "Fan" to the tenth power. The feelings you develop go from being basic to sexual, and you start fantasizing about this unknown person in a romantic sense. Whenever you see them in an interview, or video you start to imagine how it would be to have them in your life for real, and you become intrigued to know about all the moves they make. Some people may say these feelings are crazy, and down right obsessive, but are they really? What’s wrong with wanting to know about someone you’re attracted to? I feel your admiration only becomes dangerous when you take an aggressive action toward your crush, and you do and say things that are out of your character in order to gain their affection or temporary love.

Having a "Groupie Luv" is perfectly safe in my opinion as long as you do not put yourself in harms way or degrade yourself or your body in order to get a temporary fix. Contrary to popular belief, I don’t believe all groupie luv involves an exchange of sexual favors. I feel you can look up to someone, follow their progress, be attracted to them and go on to build a plutonic relationship with them. After all aren’t Entertainers and Athletes normal people too? They Love, Cry, and get their Hearts Broken just like everyone else. So why do you have to be called names just because you admire someone, or because you fantasize about a person in a sexual way. Isn’t this a normal feeling? Why wouldn’t you have sexual thoughts for someone you find attractive? Whether they are in the lime light or not!

There are all types of Luvs, and I personally feel that nothing is wrong with "Groupie Luv" as long as that love doesn’t turn into a Dangerous Fatal Attraction. No matter what kind of situation you’re in, you have to keep your safety, and self respect as your first priority. If you’re of age, and you can wake up in the morning and be proud of what you did the night before then who’s to judge? You have to be happy and fulfilled with yourself, and be able to live with your actions, and choices in life. I feel "Love" is a beautiful thing, but you need to always have love and respect for yourself before you can have Love for anyone else. Keep in mind that Artist and Athletes again are just people. They are not Gods or Untouchable Creatures. I feel it’s important to understand that most people who are currently in the lime light once had a “Groupie Luv” too! They have looked up to artist/entertainers on TV, and have been attracted to them, followed their progress, and had sexual thoughts about them. It’s completely normal, and innocent in nature to have a “Groupie Luv”, at least until you take aggressive action, and then it becomes something more.

~Be Safe & Much Luv~

XoXo

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GROUPIE LUV! (MIZZBLAZE)

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So you met someone new and your wondering...
HOW LONG SHOULD I HOLD OUT??

Well that all depends on you, and the vibe that you’re having with the other person. When starting a new romance you should take some time to talk, and get to know each other on a mental level before you bring sex into the picture. Holding out sometimes can be frustrating especially if you are getting close with the person and you are highly attracted to them, but good things are worth the wait! So...What's the Rush?

There are plenty of things you can do romantically in the beginning of your relationship to feel the person out before you take it to the next level. The best way to keep it subtle is to stay in open spaces. Don’t spend alone time together for the first couple months if you are trying to take it slow. If you find yourself one on one with the person you may not be able to hold back, so instead do things that can build your relationship, and friendship in an open setting.

You and your potential partner can go out to events that you both enjoy such as, Poetry Readings, Sporting Events, and Carnivals. Try not to focus on the physical, but instead grow your understanding of the other person’s likes and dislikes. What makes them tick? What annoys them the most? These are all important questions you should be asking yourself in the beginning of your courtship. When you start to learn a persons moral values, and beliefs it makes it easier to see if you want to go further with them.

The best thing about building a friendship first is the romantic stimulation that comes along with the anticipation of the wait. Every night you are thinking about how it would be to have that person in your arms, and wondering how it would be to take it to the next level with them. All the thoughts and feelings in conjunction with your discipline build for a greater experience. When you take the time to get to know someone on a mental level it makes the Sex that much more Explosive because there are true Feelings, and Passion behind the Stimulation. You are connected on a Mental, and Physical level. So Holding Out can bring much more than A Greater Understanding, it can also bring a Higher Level of Sexual Gratification. 

So there’s no need to Rush! Holding Out Is a Good Thing!

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HOLDING OUT! (MIZZBLAZE)

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Do you get nervous when the person your dating starts saying things like, "I Miss You" "I Cant Stop Thinking About You" or "Lets be Exclusive”?

Do you find yourself always running for the heels every time someone says the words, "I Love You”?
If this sounds like you, or someone you know You Or that other person may be suffering from....

COMMITMENT PHOBIA!

Commitment Phobia is very common. In fact most people have it and don’t even realize it because it’s embedded in their subconscious.

Let’s face it, everyone is scared of being hurt by love and that’s ok because fear is a part of life, but if this fear is stopping you from experiencing the great things that love has to offer than you may want to do a bit of self reflection. Fear is an emotion that usually comes from past experiences. If you have witnessed a string of negative relationships from your family or friends for example you could unconsciously be running from love because you don’t want to endure the same heart breaking end results.

You could also build Commitment Phobia from opening up to someone in the past, and becoming deeply wounded or betrayed because of it, but just because you are afraid of something doesn’t mean you can’t overcome it. Love has many more positives than negatives. Think back to the beginning of your relationships, and not the end. Remember when you couldn’t wait to see that person after a long day of work... Just the thought of their face or the sound of their voice would make you feel so overwhelmed with joy and happiness. That is the image you should hold in your mind when you think of the word LOVE, because love is about joy and happiness not pain and heartbreak.

As in all situations you have to take the good with the bad, and you should always evaluate your past relationships so you can learn from them and grow, but you should never dwell on the past or become so obsessed with it that it holds you back from your future! Commitment Phobia may be a part of life, but it does NOT have to be a Permanent Life Threatening disease without a Cure.

Real Love Can Heal a Broken Heart! So think happy thoughts, and you will find the one who makes you feel happiness for eternity!

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COMMITMENT PHOBIA! (MIZZBLAZE)

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Sometimes in a relationship it’s hard to get through the ruff times. It’s so much easier to give up than to stay and fight! In a perfect world you would like to think that "Love would be enough" but sometimes in certain situations its not. If you have tried everything you could to make your relationship work, I.E. Couples Counseling, Communication Strategies, and it still seems things aren’t changing for the better then maybe its best to move on. Many times people stay in situations that aren’t healthy for them because of various reasons such as, their children, joint property, business investments, but in the end you have to do what’s best for you. If you truly love the one your with, but your no longer "in love" with them don’t force it! Love should be a natural act not a forced one. To have a healthy relationship both parties must be willing to give it 110%! If you need to let go don’t be afraid....Sometimes having love for someone isn’t enough. You also need to have the tools to make the relationship work, and the commitment to see it through! XoXo Written by, MizzBlaze aka LuvOnBlast http://www.luvonblast.com/

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IS LUV ALWAYS ENOUGH?

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 So you decided to give it another shot with your ex? Your somewhat apprehensive, but the love is still there so you said what the heck, Ill try it again! So now what? First we have to evaluate why you broke up in the first place. If it was over infedelity/cheating then this short blog may not be enough, but if you both broke up because of communication issues, insecurity, or something else along those lines then read on....

 

*Communication is KEY in every relationship, and most of the time a lack in communication is the cause of most fights, and arguments. When you lack the ability to talk openly and freely with your partner it will cause a great deal of stress, and misunderstandings. Most people find it easier to go to a friend or family member about a problem with their mate, but why not go directly to the source? Have you ever heard the saying, "Don’t Ask My Neighbor”? If you feel unsure about what to say you need to build a stronger friendship with your partner. The person your with should not only be your lover, but also your best friend. This makes it easier for you to talk to them about situations that are bothering you. If you can’t talk to your partner about problems in your relationship then you have to ask yourself.... Why am I in a relationship with this person?

*If your partner has Insecurity issues it can make the relationship intolerable at times. You can’t go out with your friends or co-workers because your partner is constantly thinking that you’re creeping around on them, or looking for someone new. If your partner has low-self esteem because of weight gain, past history of a cheating partner, or some other reason you have to be understanding of this if you want to be with them. Only time, love, and patience can heal the wounds of insecurity. If your partner has insecurity issues because of a cheating partner from their past, you have to understand that in order for them to fully trust you they must first move on from their pain, and that can take years depending on the person, and situation. If your partner is still in the healing process your second time around, you have to understand and accept this going back into the relationship. Obviously you love them if you are willing to be with them again even though you are aware of this issue. So be ready to work on earning their trust, but beware this is not always an easy task. If your partner is insecure because of weight gain, or a physical change in their body or features, its important that you reassure them on a regular basis how beautiful/handsome you think they are, and assist in building their confidence by going to the gym with them or using other tools to assist in resurrecting their confidence. Do special things occasionally to show them how much you appreciate and love them. Whether it’s a special candle light dinner, hot oil massage, or stroll in the park always take time to show the luv you have for your mate.

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THE SECOND TIME AROUND

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